The kind of month it's been

I guess I think it's cool to update once a month or something.

In the past month, I have:

• reunited with long lost cousins who I last saw 17 years ago.  Sure they aren't biological cousins but they are the closest we have here in North America.  There are four kids in their family, just like mine, and my siblings and I are the country bumpkins compared to them.  It's been great though, seeing what they are up to and such.  I don't think we'll be losing touch ever again.
• gotten a paid writing gig!  However, this gig does not pay enough monthly to buy a cup of coffee so right now I'm doing it to better develop my writing skills.  Check it out if you're interested:  Life Tips Daily.
• walked 5km.  For fun!  And I am signing up to walk 5km for a good cause.  Five kilometres takes just under an hour to walk, which is not shabby at all.
• eaten a lot of tv dinners because I'm lazy.

Yeah, you haven't missed much!

It's been a while...

I guess the thought of writing about premarital sex scared me so much that I disappeared for two months! 

It's a topic I'm dying to write about but I also want to write about it in a structured and organized way and my writing priorities plus my general tendency to procrastinate don't leave me with much time for brainstorming about this topic.  I will write about it though; I just can't promise when.

So how have you been?

Me, I've been fine.  Nothing of import has happened in the last two months: no dates, no crushes, nothing.  It's finally spring here according to the calendar but there's still plenty of snow and below zero temperatures around so it'll be a few more weeks and months before I'll accept that spring is actually here.

What a boring entry eh?

Update

Winter took its sweet time coming this year [not that I was missing it!] and has finally arrived here in Ottawa.  I'm starting to worry that if it doesn't stop snowing I'll be stuck at work overnight, but luckily all the food that I have here will prevent the whole office from starving to death.  The snow looks quite pretty as it flies past my window; I think I'll be singing a different tune when it's hitting me in the face as I slip and slide my way over to the bus stop.

How are you?  Fine? Good!  I'm fine too.  My back hurts from being hunched over the computer most of yesterday but I hear that our office covers a certain percentage of the cost of massages so I may see if I can get one sometime soon.  My one and only full massage was courtesy of a gift certificate I got from E and once I got over the fact that some stranger was going to be touching my flabby bod, it was fairly relaxing.  I was sore the following day but it was a good sore.

What has been happening with me?  Not much.  I'm going to be in another wedding this year as a bridesmaid so that should be fun.  My fitness goals are to have sexier looking arms in that wedding than I did at the one in 2005.  So it's hand weights and push ups for me at least three times a week.

I met this guy at a friend's gathering.  We talked a little but now we're getting to know each other via the internet.  In typical olamiposi style, I'm giving him pointers on finding a girlfriend but he doesn't want to start looking until April [long story].  It's completely friendship, and completely harmless but it's been fun enjoying some totally lighthearted flirting.  Basically we're being very silly and unserious and it's been fun.

My next topic is going to be about sex before marriage...look for it.

I saw The Holiday tonight with my sister and I enjoyed it.

If you like romantic movies that have some substance and some laugh out loud moments mixed with very sweet moments, then you'll likely enjoy the movie.

At the beginning I was a bit annoyed by Cameron Diaz's acting but I'm not a critic and by the end of the movie I found even her character endearing.

It's a lovely holiday movie, and I can see myself renting it next Christmas and watching it curled up in a blanket in a warm room.

Realization

I kept mentioning that I was meeting the strangest of men on this site, and I even mentioned that I had tried to leave the site, but there was an error preventing me from leaving.  All of this is true.  But why didn't I do something simple that would keep uninteresting guys from contacting me?  Why didn't I remove my contact information already???!??

Clearly it's because deep down I thought that I'd find that diamond in the rough, that awesome guy who has been living right under my nose [or at least withing 500km of it], who thinks I'm awesome, exactly as I am, and be whisked into my 'happy ever after' story.  This could happen, but over 40 responses later, I am not so sure.

So even as I mocked these men who have contacted me, I still hoped that one of them would turn out to be that sparklling conversationalist who would "get" me, who'd make these years of extremely aimless searching worthwhile.

I've finally smartened up and decided that I will do what I can to avoid receiving annoying emails from men who cannot read or write well, who insist on using endearments with someone they have not yet met, who don't understand the meaning of "I am looking to make friends with Nigerians in North America only".  Enough!  I am not not contactable on the site and it feels great.

2006 was supposed to be my year, and all in all it wasn't bad.  I had some milestones

*getting a permanent job
*visiting the USA on my own
*getting my driver's license

and the hope is that in 2007 I'll be empowered --by GOD--to accomplish those other goals that linger.

And for you?  I wish you the happiest of New Years.  Enjoy it.  Savour it.  Make it happen.